I bet you've had one of those nights.

You know the ones - it's gone 11pm, you're still awake reading through the SEND Code of Practice for the third time, trying to work out if the school is actually allowed to do what they're doing. Your partner's asleep. The house is quiet. And you're just... tired.

Tired of fighting. Tired of not being heard. Tired of feeling like you're the only one who really sees how much your child is struggling.

The Thing Nobody Tells You

Here's what nobody mentions when your child first gets identified as having special educational needs: navigating the SEND system becomes a part-time job that you never applied for and definitely don't get paid for.

You become an expert in things you never wanted to be an expert in. You learn acronyms. You attend meetings with five professionals on the other side of the table. You write emails in the most polite language possible while inside you're screaming.

And at some point, usually around 2am after another evening of research, you wonder: "Should I actually be getting help with this?"

It's a Genuinely Hard Question

We completely get why parents struggle with this decision.

Advocacy costs money you might not have. It feels like admitting you can't handle it (you absolutely can, by the way - the system is just deliberately complicated). And maybe you're worried that bringing in an advocate will make relationships with school even worse.

Plus, how do you even know if you need one? Maybe everyone finds this hard and you're just being dramatic?

(You're not being dramatic.)

So We Made Something That Might Help

We've put together a really simple checklist - just a list of situations that usually mean a parent could do with some support.

Things like:

  • Your emails aren't being answered
  • You don't understand half of what was said in the last meeting
  • The provision in the EHCP is vague and nobody will clarify it
  • You've been told something isn't possible but you're not sure if that's actually true

You just tick the boxes that apply to your situation, and it gives you a sense of whether you're doing okay or whether you might genuinely benefit from having someone in your corner.

That's it. No magic formula, just an honest reflection tool.

Here's the Thing Though

Whether you use the checklist or not, whether you ever speak to an advocate or not, we want you to know something:

You're doing an incredible job.

Seriously. The fact that you're reading this, that you're researching, that you're fighting for your child even when you're exhausted - that matters. Your child is lucky to have you.

And if it turns out you could use some support? That doesn't mean you've failed. It means the system is hard, and you're smart enough to know when backup would help.

What We're Offering

If you want to take the checklist, go for it - grab it here. It's completely free, no email address required, just a PDF you can download.

And if after filling it in you think "yeah, I could probably use a chat about this," then book a free 20-minute call with us. We'll talk through what's happening, We'll give you some honest thoughts, and there's absolutely no obligation to do anything beyond that.

We just don't like the idea of parents struggling alone when they don't have to.

 

The SEN Advocate